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Fall Down/Get Up Is One Move

I’m certain most of you have watched a small child taking their first steps. They fall down often as they get their land legs underneath them. Yet, they always get back up again ready for the next adventure in learning to walk upright and exploration of the world around them.

You did this in fact when you were a baby, but some of us have forgotten this as we fall into the deep holes of life and can’t seem to find our way out….or we avoid, with all of our will power, falling at all!

Fall down/get up could be perceived as one move to a baby. It is a way in which they learn more about life and is fueled by intense curiosity. Perhaps we have something to relearn here!

Living life in a “straight line” never takes us anywhere we have not already been before. As Naomi Newman says in the comic dharma performance video below “nothing natural or interesting goes in a straight line and is the quickest way to a wrong place. If you know where you are going then you have already been there.”

Have you ever purposely surrendered to the possibility of becoming lost? I call “getting lost” a way of inspiring new possibilities for we travel to a place outside or inside of ourselves that we have never been to before. Then we have a choice. Engage with curiosity and a sense of exploration….or panic because we are “lost” and dwell in all of the fears that can result as we give them life, capturing us in a way that leads us potentially back to a dead end of sameness.

Almost three years ago now I decided to quit a job and four years of residence in Oregon and move to Texas without having any friends there or source of income. What made me do it? Many things actually, but it certainly wasn’t from a place of attempting to live in a straight line, but instead more out of a sense of trusting this leap into the unknown and knowing that I would discover more of who I am and what I have to offer within that journey.

Did I fall at times? Yes. Did I get back up making it one move? Yes, but sometimes with gaps in between as I waited for life and myself to unfold giving time for allowing possibilities to emerge. Did I learn a lot and am I still learning and growing? Oh yes!

Listening to that inner guidance system, which takes us in many and varied directions, and trusting that it will lead to exactly where we need to go next is a life long lesson. Be ready to become intensely curious, nurture a sense of exploration, travel in many and varied directions, fall down/get up, and wait for possibilities to unfold. You were so wise when young…..and it is still there within you!

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Gaye Abbott, RYT assists individuals to drop the layers that cover the natural innate blueprint we came in with and reveal, through a combination of evolutionary energy work, Jin Shin Jyutsu, Reiki and breath re-patterning, the larger purpose and co-creative expression that we are here for.

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The Rescue Syndrome

OK, I know many of us got sucked into the fairy tales that we were told as young girls and boys. Some of them had good things to teach us….and others lead to belief systems into adulthood that caught us in patterns which were not necessarily the healthiest for our whole being. Many of these tales had the feminine as helpless and/or in a precarious situation so that masculine needed to save her (read rescue here)….and invariably he became captivated by her beauty (perhaps the beginning of a need for make up and designer clothing?)

A few weeks back I was at a gathering of artists (writers, painters, singers, photographers…..) and we were asked to think of a pattern that we would like to let go of and then capture the image/words on paper with pen/colored marker/crayon/paint so that we could share it with the others. This was just the beginning of the ritual.

Immediately I saw a scene similar to the one above (you will of course remember “Rupunzel, Rupunzel let down your hair”) however, instead of the masculine presence climbing up my hair to rescue me from the tower that had no way out I saw him riding the white horse across the plains as I screamed “Help! Help! (kind of like Scarlet O’Hara with Rhett Butler or the damsel in distress tied to the railroad tracks).

No, my horse did not look like this…..

Well, my first thought was “I can’t draw!”, but decided right then and there that I would not ask for a way out of this exercise, but instead picked up colored felt tipped pens and started in on my masterpiece. Now if you put a group of drawings by a kindergarten class up on the wall let’s just say mine would fit right in. BUT, I actually had fun doing it and laughed all the way through my creation. (you should have seen the horse!!)

Believe it or not the other members of the group did get what I had drawn when I shared and before the end of the evening was over with we had all gone outside, stood around a fire and tossed our out lived and no longer needed patterns into the flames.

It was very curious to me that this is the pattern that showed up as I pride myself on being such an “independent women”, but when I really got down to it I realized that this pattern has lasted a very long time. It actually has many levels to it including taking the role of the rescuer as well. (switch the picture above in your mind and place a beautiful woman with her heart in her hand (no sword baby!) taking off to rescue everyone she can possibly “save”, but leaving her own needs somewhere behind on the road she is traveling.)

To keep this simple though let’s talk about the one being rescued.

As I see it there is a “light” and “dark” side to the “rescue syndrome”. The light is when we graciously accept help when needed and then use it as a springboard for making distinctions and opening to possibility. Granted there are times in life when we need someone to be there for us and it is an act of self love to allow that person/s to help us. Just like being able to give and receive love with equal ease.

Now for the dark side of this pattern. For me I saw it manifest a great deal in the financial realm oftentimes cleverly disguised in credit card use, asking for (or accepting from self identified “rescuer’s”) personal loans, and oh yes taking jobs that did not honor who I was in my fullest expression or promoting other people’s businesses/visions – all at the expense of trusting my own.

In younger years the rescue came in the need to be loved, desired, accepted and to belong and often came in the form of relationship. In more mature years that is still present under the surface, but it goes much deeper – honoring the potential of my own being in fullest expression, creativity and soul purpose. Trusting that I have all that it takes to be successful in whatever endeavor I take on whether it be a business, artistic expression, relationship or spiritual quest.

This means a weaving of the Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine – versus the Doubtful and Disempowered Feminine with the Static Masculine. This tapestry happens inside of us and then is reflected in the outside circumstances and relationships of our lives.

No longer able to walk away from ourselves we instead turn back to face ourselves and take a really close look at the magnificent being that we are.

It may take time to integrate all of the parts, and there may be times when we are about to fall into the “rescue syndrome” once again….but I am willing to bet that once you have seen who you are and the potential that you have there will be no turning back!

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Gaye Abbott, RYT assists individuals to drop the layers that cover the natural innate blueprint we came in with and reveal, through a combination of evolutionary energy work, Jin Shin Jyutus, Reiki, mentoring, yoga therapy and breath re-patterning, the larger purpose and co-creative expression that we are here for.

WEBSITE: www.GayeAbbott.com

OTHER BLOGS BY GAYE ABBOTT:

www.BreathingSpaces.net
www.NaturalWealthJournal.com

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Empowerment, Self Love, Union of Femine and Masculine

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Fierce Feminine

“There is a tremendous power that lives deep inside you. It’s fierce – showing a heartfelt and powerful intensity that is brave and untamed – full of preciousness, gentleness, kindness and vulnerability.” Alisa Starkweather

It is when we are truly transparent as a leader and as individuals, to ourselves and those around us, that we provide a container for those that “follow” or “connect” to wake up to themselves and step into their own unique leadership and soul path. It is as if we have given them permission to be themselves – fully and completely – by being ourselves – fully and completely.

This is a style of fierce feminine leadership and being that allows and anoints women to step fully into their power in a

Yantra. The symbol of Feminine energy-strength, power and clarity.

cooperative and collaborative way leading from grace and trust. It is a type of being that lets go of and explores the shadow and sense of survival and internal oppression which has been wired in for eons…and steps out and into what we fear most.

“I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing that I wanted to do.”
― Georgia O’Keeffe

No hiding is present here. We have hidden for way too long. It has taken so much energy to keep under cover the magnificent light, power,courage, creativity, wildness, love, wisdom, intelligence, and compassion that each of us carries.

“Within you, and in nature, is the potent, instinctual, untamable
and nourishing force of Wild Wisdom.
You need it. I need it.
Our world needs us to bring forth our Wild Wisdom “

Lea Bayles, Body and Soul Coach
http://leabayles.com/wildwisdom.html
(click on this link for a wild, evocative and seductive narrative spoken by Wildly Wise Woman, Lea Bayles!)

A short time ago I had the opportunity to share the story of a wildly wise and fiercely feminine woman. I facilitated a film afternoon co-sponsored along with Sierra Club and TreeSisters (Clare Dakin, Founder – forming a global network of women with a mission of reforesting the rain forests within 10 years). The film was Taking Root, a story of Nobel Peace Prize Laureate, Wangari Mathaai and the Green Belt Movement in Kenya, Africa. There were many things that struck me about this recent history of Kenya and her resources – and even more powerfully the life story of this woman who was bold and committed enough to step into her purpose with clarity and courage even in the midst of an entire government’s ridicule and violent actions taken against her.

And all she wanted to do was plant trees……while empowering Kenyan women and promoting peace and ecological sustainability in her country.

There is no surprise that this dynamic woman came back into my life again for as It turns out I had some unfinished business with her. Seven years ago now when I was in Bali, Indonesia at the Global Healing Conference with Desmond Tutu and others from across the world, Wangari was supposed to have been one of the guests to present. At the last minute she had to cancel. I was very saddened by that as I had learned of what she had done in Kenya and was very excited about meeting her.

Wangari then came back into my life recently through TreeSisters as they were recommending the Taking Root film to show and discuss. As I am active with them in a volunteer capacity I committed to purchasing the film and facilitating an after film discussion.

About a month prior to this film showing I was visiting with a friend and we talked a little about Wangari. She knew about her and loaned me her memoir Unbowed which I finished reading on 9/25/13. That night I had vivid dreams in which Wangari was encouraging me to “continue my work by telling this story” and “step up into your power and expression as a woman”. among other things.

The next morning I became curious about what she had died of (ovarian cancer) and when. When I saw the date I realized why I had been so strongly connected with her that day/night. She transitioned on 9/25/2011…

I remain committed to telling her and Kenya’s story and the relevance to shifting the scarcity/lack and separateness meta-coding that have contributed so greatly to the global challenges we face today – environmental, social justice, health and spiritual well being.

Her story and that of the women of Kenya is relevant to inspiring and empowering women to express from their fullest potential and to support each other in doing so. It can start with one simple act.

Wangari and so many other women today exemplify the fierce feminine which I am speaking to here. The earth and nature based feminine that is arising with a voice that cannot be ignored. The “wild wisdom” feminine that is finally honoring what we have to bring….and bringing it within collaboration and heart based connectivity shifting what Anodea Judith calls the “static masculine” (The Global Heart Awakens: Humanities Rite of Passage from the Love of Power to the Power of Love) foundation upon which so much has been built and co-creating a new myth from awakened hearts into systems based on the power of love and the deep interconnection that sustains all.

Root yourself down dear sisters and explore the stories that you are telling yourself. Are they true? If not, then change them, make friends with your saboteur and become very curious about what would provide the solid foundation for a fully expressed fiercely feminine YOU!

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Courage, Finding Your Voice, Power and Leadership

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Assumptions About Women – Taking A Stand

A few days ago I was kept awake off and on all night after reading the memoir – Unbowed – of Wangari Maathai, Nobel Peace Prize Laureate and mother creator of The Green Belt Movement in Kenya, Africa. Every time I awoke her persistence, commitment and passion for what she stood for was infiltrating into my being.

About six years ago now I missed seeing Wangari at a Global Healing Conference in Bali, Indonesia. I remember clearly that I had been so excited that she was going to be with us as well as Desmond Tutu, Lynn Twist and other Nobel laureates. Unfortunately, at the last minute she could not travel to Bali. I felt a great loss.

I knew that she had passed on in 2011 but did not know why, so the day after this wakefulness happened I found out the cause of her death and the date. She died on 9/25/2011 – the same day/evening that she visited me so intensely!!

She has re-entered my life through a global organization called TreeSisters – birthed into this world by Clare Dakin. Clare follows in Wangari’s footsteps as she passionately upholds the importance of reforesting our planet – and by women!! Part of membership in being a part of this planet Earth is to take a stand as Wangari, Clare, Lynn Twist (Pachamama Alliance), Jane Goodall , Barbara Marx Hubbard and so many other women are doing now as we experience environmental, social justice, economic and deep spiritual crises.

These imbalances have been co-created by splitting off from our true nature – the Earth. We have forgotten our roles as stewards of the Earth and have become dis-eased in the process. The rampant incidence of depression, anxiety, panic and other disease processes mirrors the very split from that which has given us life. Natures cycles are women’s cycles!

We all know the assumptions that have been held in regards to women for so many centuries and now seems the time to upset the apple cart in regards to these very assumptions. The one that has hurt us the most – and one which we have bought into – is “As a woman I am powerless”. There were good reasons to think so down through the ages, but not now, not ever again.

Why do I say that? Because not only are women waking up and coming out in our full embodied expressions, but we are standing with each other to facilitate the changes that so many of us are committed to on behalf of the well being of all life here. We don’t have to step forward without fear, we simply need to be persistent and form alliances with others that are willing to bring their expression to the creative solutions and innovations.

As Wangari says in Unbowed: “What people see as fearlessness is really persistence. Because I am focused on the solution, I don’t see danger. Because I don’t see danger, I don’t allow the mind to imagine what might happen to me, which is my definition of fear. If you don’t foresee the danger and see only the solution, then you can defy anyone and appear strong and fearless.”

I love this quote as in her life she faced injury, life threats, imprisonment, gender discrimination, and great opposition from the political powers that were present as she was growing The Green Belt Movement. Today this very movement has been responsible for 51 million trees being planted in Kenya and thousands of women finding their own power and purpose in life thus affecting the quality of life in her country.

She says about those that have walked by her side: “Throughout my life, I have never stopped to strategize about my next steps. I often just keep walking along, through whichever door opens. I have been on a journey and this journey has never stopped. When the journey is acknowledged and sustained by those I work with, they are a source of inspiration, energy, and encouragement. They are the reasons I kept walking, and will keep walking, as long as my knees hold out.”

Now take some time to think about women that inspire you, whether they are present day or from the past. I have chosen those that are working on behalf of our environment and sustainable living and thriving, however yours may be from any walk of life or focus. What qualities did/do they possess? They may have been or are called “heretics” and if they are, take a very careful look at who is naming them. Assumptions are dangerous and at the core are what got us to the place we are today tipping over into imbalances that will and are seriously affecting us all.

I say to each of you – take a stand! At our core we all have the “stuff” that is needed to “take a stand” even if that is simply being absolutely true to our own unique expression and unfailingly trusting it. We are all healers and creators. Let us trust our soul, honor our spirit, open our heart, transform our mind and heal our bodies. ( Heart of the Healer by Don Oscar Miro-Quesada, Peruvian curandero).

Come into ritual space with each other and co-create Earth centered living from the heart ignited by soul and spirit….We can have a gentle birth to the next stage of evolution by accepting, trusting, and stepping into the innate power that we have been given by simply being born a woman. You are both the midwives and the ones that are giving birth!!

I Am

We Are

Here Now

One Within

The story of the hummingbird by Wangari Maathai:

Taking Root trailer – The story of Wangari Maathai and The Green Belt Movement

http://www.takingrootfilm.com/trailer.htme

…AND ONE MORE TASTY GIFT! GET UP AND DANCE!! DON’T FORGET THE PASSION!!

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**NOTE: If you live in Austin, Texas or near by please join us for a showing of the film Taking Root on 10/27/13 co-sponsored by the local Sierra Club, global TreeSisters, and me – Natural Passages Consulting. A representative from Pachamama Alliance will also be with us!! Go to htt://www.GayeAbbott.com and click on the EVENTS tab.

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Be The Change, Empowerment, Finding Your Voice

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Wake Up! Wake Up!

I am taking a risk here as I have been advised to do so. You shall see Whom has advised me in just a moment.

For a lot of my life I have tethered myself to what culture and my life experience had patterned me to be and do. At, you might say, the tail end of my journey here this lifetime I am finally beginning to wake up. “Wake up” meaning coming into fully being and expressing the loving creative impulse that is arising in me from that deep God source that I am constantly being requested to embrace.

It feels expansive and like “coming home”….and it also feels scary as hell in some moments! Sometimes I turn around and ask the invisible air – who me?!!! And the answer that I always get is – Yes, YOU!! This tends to make those that are around me question my sanity of course….but what the heck!

For the past three weeks I have been doing a practice that has been around for awhile to expand my relationship with money. I have found it fun, creative and a mirror to see my values, dreams, visions, generous spirit, and desires come out to play.

In this exercise you start with $1,000 which you must spend that day. Each day you add $1,000 so that as the days pass (and you get out of debt) you must expand to be more creative and mindful in the spending of your money. I am up to day 24 which means today I spend $24,000!

After doing such things as removing my current debt and paying my house payment for the next year, I have done things such as donated to my favorite causes; sponsored several women for the year program in Women For Women International – plus traveled to Africa to get personally involved with helping to build a center for women in the Democratic Republic of the Congo (green built of course); started trust funds for my grandchildren; taken trips to visit friends and family; started a Monday ritual of giving $100 randomly (and sometimes anonymously) and in person to 10 people here in my home city of Austin; put money into Socially Responsible Investing; donated to my local food co-op; and even helped to create an arts program for the homeless to channel creative gifts that they may not ever have had the opportunity to explore.

This has been an exercise and practice in tapping into my creativity and taking out all of the “restrictions” and self imposed scarcity around money. It has been absolutely delightful thus far and I look forward to the coming days of spending. I bring all of this because two days ago something else happened after I had asked this question before deciding on how to spend the money – “If I was to have an entire day where I spent this money solely for honoring and nurturing my being, how would I spend this $22,000?”

I won’t go into the details (how would you spend it??!!), but there was a feeling at the end that sparked a process of opening that I will bring here. I wrote after spending this money – “That felt really good as the most important thing to me is connection and sharing love. So what if I live my day to day life right now as if that is already true – that I am always living in sufficiency and money and I are in an incredible partnership. We inspire each other to be and express all that we are. I want to feel this free all the time for the rest of the days of my life.”

And now for the risk part! The following words were channeled through me. My pen could hardly keep up with the stream of what felt like expanded consciousness that was coming through me onto the paper. I have been directed to share this with you and fearlessly publish it. Perhaps you will hear what you need to just at this exact moment. Perhaps you will think I am crazy! Offered with my love. I am calling it:

MESSAGES FROM THE LIGHT

Wake up! For it is so. There are no restrictions. Life is lived now and is only restricted by your own thoughts, patterns and beliefs. What is good in this world is within you. Wake up daily to bring that goodness. Step out of all comfort zones for those places are the jail of your own creation. Take risks daily! Wake up! Wake up!

There are no restrictions. There is only a creative God impulse that is moving in you and dancing in the light. Know this place, for it is you. Wake up! Wake up!

Do not doubt that I am here always for you. The soft, clear, powerful empowered light, passion and holy being that is YOU! Wake up! Wake up!

Now is the time to claim your freedom. Now is the time to claim your freedom. The freedom that has been yours always. Wake up! Wake up!

Do not fall asleep again for these moments are precious wild yearnings that are wanting to manifest in the world. Wake up! Wake up!

Feel me fill you up as a lover entering you, filling up the lower creative chakras and bringing them into your heart. There is no lack. The planet needs you fully expressing at this time. Follow me and TRUST that I am taking you to the places that you need to go to shine the light for others.

You are love. I have let you experience that many times in your life. Remember who I am for that is you. Wake up! Wake up!

Do not fear for I am with you always – always. You are never alone. All of nature speaks through me and reminds you of who you are. Do not doubt your power. I am putting you in touch and connection with others that will guide you to the next steps you need to take. Do not doubt that these are the ones that will help you to continue waking up.

Celebrate the passion, sexuality, creativity and love that you bring. Allow my words to come through you onto this page and fearlessly submit them. You are on the right path. You have already made contact with those that are to walk by your side and others are waiting in the wings to come in in just the right timing. Trust me.

Those that have fallen away let go of. These relationships were created for two reasons. First for you to recognize deeply engrained patterns that needed to come to light and be released. Secondly to teach you how to let go with love and grace. You are doing well in this regard. Keep waking up to what is clear right before you. Do not doubt me. Wake up! Wake up!

I love you more deeply than you have ever been loved. Remember and wake up, wake up!

Lay down your burden of fear on the road and do not look back. I walk beside you always. Trust your knowing for that is me. This is home where separation does not exist. You are the light that you shine for others. Honor and nurture that light. It is so needed now. I am with you. Wake up! Wake up!

I love you. I am you. All that is captured in one light beam or leaves on a tree. Don’t ever lose your faith and trust in me. I am your Mother from where all life begin. I am your father bringing your gifts and light out into the world. Ask me anything and I will be there for you. Embrace the money that moves in and out of your life. It is me.

Do not judge others for they have come to this Earth plane to do their work as you have. Now you are ready to fly. Trust that the wings of your heart will take you into the realms that are needed for this final initiation. Trust me here for fear will attempt to take you into the darkness…..but know that you always have the light. Wake up! Wake up!

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Acceptance, Creative Expression, Divine Inspiration

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Relationships and Money

I have never done this before, but because I feel it is vitally important that women are empowered in all aspects of their being I am posting here on WildlyFreeWoman the same blog post that I just published on Natural Wealth Journal.

It is women in partnership with conscious men that are at the heart of the evolutionary global shift we are currently in the midst of. Let’s clear the way for our clarity of purpose and whole hearted expression to shine forth!

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Nogie King in The Currency of Connection states beautifully:

“I believe that we sit at the edge of an evolutionary impulse that can move human kind into a radical and collective realignment with wholeness, purpose and grace. Life has always been an extraordinary process for creative potential. What is different now is our growing ability to perceive and then actualize engagement that is our natural birthright.”

With curiosity I invite you to enter the world of money as a vibrant, loving relationship just waiting to connect us to not only our own potential, but also to the creative genius of just about everything on this planet of ours. If you are like me, you most probably have had, or are still having, a rocky relationship with money. Not your idea of the ideal loving, respectful, and trusting relationship that we all yearn for I bet!

What has helped me tremendously over the past few weeks after quitting a job that I allowed to rob me of creative juice and flow, is to remember that money in and of itself first came into being with the purpose of fostering and celebrating human relationships. It has now become something else for many people – something that adds stress to daily life – perhaps unnecessary stress at that.

Looking at money through the lens of relationship can be a fascinating journey and can provide insights that just may surprise you! Relationship with yourself, with others, with our planet, and with money itself most probably deeply embedded in scarcity and lack in some form or another.

I am reminded of the days growing up that we used to play Monopoly. Loved handling all that play money and buying the prime properties while hoping that one of the other players would land on my high density housing prime space and have to hand over more money for rent!

We needed to be in relationship in that game. Face to face, throwing the dice to see what would happen next in our relationship with each other and our money. Out of necessity it would often go on for hours as money changed hands back and forth.

Life lessons were tucked in there as well like landing in jail and hoping for a “Get Out of Jail Free” card to release you back into the game and back into relationship with the other players.

Well have you ever thought that we put ourselves in jail and restrict the easy flow of money and vibrant alive relationship in our lives because of deeply engrained patterns that were put down early in our tender lives for what we thought was survival?

Here is a part of my story to make this more personal and to highlight the fact that how we use money is an opportunity for our own spiritual awakening and an expression of our fundamental interconnectedness.

I was either in a state of worry and fear around where the next dollar was coming from, or when I did have money it rather slipped away from me. I was always trying to find ways to get more back into my bank account. This went on for many years even through times when I had plenty of money to support myself and my growing children.

At the same time I was creating relationships with men in much the same way. Two marriages, another long term partner, and quite a number of other relationships later I finally found myself taking a look at both my relationship with money and with men. Bet you won’t be surprised that there were some underlying beliefs that were interwoven in both relationships.

When my mother died suddenly at the early age of 39 when I was only 14 years old I of course felt abandoned by someone that I really needed at that time in my life. The connection had been broken and I took it on as something that I must have done. My underlying belief at this time was that I must not be worthy which was unconsciously supported by my father who went into a deep depression leaving me to take on the responsibility of my younger brother and the household. In a way he had abandoned me by not honoring that I had needs too.

What did I do? I created a belief system and pattern that lasted until just recently. Work hard (read struggle here) to take care of others to make certain you are appreciated and loved, i.e worthy; push down your own needs, desires and passion (stay hidden); create relationships with people and money where “rescue” is needed (so that I could prove I was loved); and not only attract unavailable men, but leave relationships first before they can leave you.

Can you draw a parallel between these patterns and my relationship with money? Essentially not feeling worthy in my own essential self (money slipping through my hands and creating “rescue” scenarios), taking on others desires and passions as my own (struggling to bring money in through others businesses/visions that were not in alignment with my whole hearted creative expression ), and setting up the abandonment before I can be abandoned (I am not worthy).

I think you get the picture here. We are in a very powerful time on our planet right now where each one of us has the opportunity to repattern into “wholeness, purpose and grace” in a way that honors our own highest potential as well as that of every other life form on this planet. If we don’t do this our species has the potential to disappear!

This time is about creatively connecting and collaborating within the deep interconnection that sustains all of us – every single life form on this planet. It is called Unity – the yoga of life. In order to open to this way of being each one of us must take the inner journey of clearing anything in the way of truly being ourselves in the world.

Since money is a large part of our life, and always will be present in some way, why not create a trusting, flowing, sufficient, honest and loving relationship with it. It really does want to love you back and is the currency of connection!!

SOME SUGGESTED BOOKS:

The Currency of Connection: How to Create An Exquisitely Kick Ass Relationship With Money by Nogie King

The Trance of Scarcity: Hey! Stop Holding Your Breath and Start Living Your Life! by Victoria Castle

The Soul of Money: Reclaiming The Wealth of Our Inner Resources by Lynn Twist

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The Yearning

Enough. These few words are enough. If not these words, this breath. If not this breath, this sitting here. This opening to the life we have refused again and again until now. Until now. – David Whyte

Today I sat with two beautiful women friends and we leaped from one deep discussion to the next often with laughter and humility. What kept breaking through every topic, whether it was about profession, creativity, men or patterns that seemed to have kept us stuck….was that deep yearning which we jointly decided every human on this planet has within.

The seemingly elusive “missing” piece to the puzzle that makes up our life. Is it love, the Divine, the person or child that we wish to shower our love on and have it returned, being at the peak of our profession, or any number of things that we are chasing after. Kahlil Gibran says, “And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course”.

Is it not enough that we open to the life that we have this very moment and find within that moment a glimmer of the missing piece that will “complete us”. In the very act of chasing after this piece we miss that it is always right here – beyond the “refusing” to open, the refusing that this may be the only breath that we will ever take, the refusing to deeply understand that only in this moment are we complete and that there is nothing else beyond it.

I, like you, have been caught up in this eternal chase powered by the deep yearning that resides within, something seemingly deliciously greater than life in the moment. The inability to accept that this single moment is not, as our mind would tell us, lacking in anything at all.

Can we ever know for certain what will reveal itself in the next inhale and exhale? We confront….and then we must surrender. We create….. and then we must rest within that creation.

Simply opening to the life that has been refused again and again…..there rests the missing piece called yearning. Coming home over and over and over…..

“Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” — Lao Tzu

A meditation in yearning, beauty, sensuality, and creativity…..

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You Are More Beautiful Than You Think

How does the title of this blog post make you feel? What are the feelings that arise when you consider your own beauty?

As women we are so often self critical about many things in our appearance. If it isn’t the media or our culture that is demanding we look a certain way in order to be loved, get the job, get the man, or even get the attention….it is our own inability to accept the features and bodies that we have been given.

Beauty is considered in so many different ways by people all over the world. But isn’t real beauty that which shines through the features? The features that are a pathway to all of the experiences that have made up this one precious life! The soul of who we are!

It is the deepest parts of our being that shine forth if we but allow the open and whole expression of who we really are. Accepting the natural beauty that resides within and reflects on the outside – even the wrinkles, lines and flaws – encourages us as women to express fully without holding back anything!

Can we really be open to how others see us and realize that we are much more beautiful than we think? Watch this short video and reflect. Perhaps it will lead you to come out of hiding…

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The Return of Wild Wisdom

Domesticated. Is that a word that describes you or the life you are leading? Are you “settling” for less than your heart desires? Taking a look at the rote ways in which we live the moments of our lives can be painful to that wild creature that lives, breathes and moves inside of us. You know the one!

“We are here to fall in love with a lot more than just our mate… trees, stones, rivers, animals, birds, planets, galaxies, poems, music….”
~ Rev Matthew Fox

The creature inside that yearns to paint on the walls way outside the lines, dance outside at midnight (maybe in the nude!) to celebrate the universe inside and out, dig in the earth and come away with bits of dirt and leaves all over our clothes, speak out loudly and with conviction when a tree is cut down that doesn’t need to be cut except for some other humans profit, go out of our way not to “follow the rules” and instead find a path and a way that creates more life for ourself and others, and…..you speak more here!

Our planet and all life on it, as well as our individual aliveness, depends not only on engaging that Wild Wisdom, but embodying it with fearless grace and passion. What is it that you desire? Desire is not bad…it is a passionate means to access the gifts that we have to bring and the full life we have to live this time around. It is the fuel which feeds the Wild Wisdom that is within all of us.

I invite you to listen to my dear friend Lea Bayles speak to Wild Wisdom that sought her out to remind us to commit to and honor this intelligence whose time has come to return once again into our global consciousness and actions…NOW.

This piece is eloquent, intelligent, grounded, irreverent, deliciously sensual, and a call to all women and men to not ever dare again to shut away Wild Wisdom in a closet somewhere whimpering low sounds of mournful abandonment.

We were born with Wild Wisdom. It is all around us in nature and the interconnection of life that never ceases to evolve opportunity and change. It lives and breathes innately within us. Are we ready to listen??

“Within you, and in nature, is the potent, instinctual, untamable
and nourishing force of Wild Wisdom.
You need it. I need it.
Our world needs us to bring forth our Wild Wisdom.” Lea Bayles

Wild Wisdom

….and some Wild Wisdom words from Allan Watts..

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This beautiful woman named Rose has a lesson to teach all of us who find that we are slightly, or greatly, discouraged by the aging process. Although Rose is no longer with us her story is below and I think will give you some inspiration as to the preciousness of each moment of this incredible life we have been given.

As I come to the turning of 65 this coming July I keep thinking (and feeling!) that I am so much younger. What it seems to be to me is the timelessness of our indomitable spirit which is ageless and craves living full tilt, though the body at times fails to cooperate much to our dismay! There is always another opportunity to live our passions!! For Rose it was going to college and getting her degree…for me it is returning to doing energy bodywork, teaching, and starting a new book just for women!

These days I find all around me examples of “older women” stepping right into their passions and staunchly refusing to crumple under the youth crazed culture. They are real, aware, wise, healthy, courageous, creative, beautiful….and very, very sexy! I will include myself in there, as well as many women that I know!

As Rose so wisely said, “REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL.” What will you fill the “optional” with?? …in this one wild and precious life?! Oh, so many things to choose from! Yummm!!

Roses Story:

An 87 Year Old College Student Named Rose
The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know.
I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned round to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being.

She said, “Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?”
I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze.
“Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked.
She jokingly replied, “I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids…”
“No seriously,” I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.
“I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting one!” she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months, we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this “time machine”
as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was
introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, “I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell
you what I know.”

As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, “We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop
playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don’t even know it!

There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those
with regrets.”

She concluded her speech by courageously singing “The Rose.” She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the year’s end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s never too late to be all you can possibly be .When you finish reading this, please send this peaceful word of advice to your friends and family, they’ll really enjoy it!”

TIP: Watch the wonderful film: My Afternoons With Margueritte (Available on Netflix)

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