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Soul Musings/Day 27: The Catalyst of “Failure”

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As the year draws to an end many of us are aware of shifts in our personal lives and certainly planetary. The thoughts of “success or failure” within these shifts takes us into a polarity that isn’t particularly helpful.

As Oprah says in the video below, “Failure is there to point you in a different direction” and it is most often not fatal. Impermanence makes certain that success is never final.

Thus the life continuum that holds a myriad of experiences opens possibilities for the next steps along our life’s path. Without each one of them we would not be willing to embody the courage to walk a little more to where we are called or be who we are today.

As we step into the uncertainty, as Cheryl Strayed did in the recent movie “Wild”, we see how much of a catalyst  “failure” can be. As she reaches her goal and “succeeds” at the end of her hike along the 1,000 miles of the PCT she finds in deep reflection that it is all a continuum…..a continuum that brings us exactly to the place we are in this moment elegantly unfolding the next set of life possibilities.

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Inspiring New Possibilities, Living From the Soul of Life While Co-creating Well Being of Body, Being, Heart and Planet….One Breath At A Time

Soul Musings is a 31-day practice for the month of December immersed in deep listening to what is emerging and unfolding day by day.  Eight sentences with occasional resources to explore more deeply.

Each post, invited by Soul, allows the words to emerge unscathed from prior planning, editing, or censorship.  Dwelling in uncertainty and dipping a toe into mystery this union of words is an attempt to resonate within an innate way of Being…. returning “home”.

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Vulnerability

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Vulnerability is not weakness. The pretense of invulnerability is remarkably delusional; it is symptomatic of outrageous vanity. To ignore consideration of our own vulnerabilities represents a failure to properly risk ourselves in the world. To turn away from or attempt to exile others who are vulnerable expresses a profound and disturbing loss of humanity. Our relationship to vulnerability is a core element of our authenticity and our identity.

– Brian Alger

It has been awhile since my last posting, not by design, but instead by neglect in allowing so much time to pass. Starting right out being vulnerable opens a space within me to write something of value for you my readers. How much are we willing to be vulnerable to life’s changes and challenges?  Open into new possibilities of expressing ourselves at the very core of our being?

We all have stories of a time when we felt vulnerable. However, do we have experiences where we purposely opened or placed ourselves in situations where being vulnerable put us at risk of exposure? Exposure to being seen – even those parts that we try to keep hidden for fear that we won’t be loved, liked or seen as strong, smart, independent, competent, etc, etc etc.

As the two quotes above reflect – our relationship to, and acceptance of, being in a state of vulnerability opens doorways to expression, innovation, authenticity and knowing more of who we are. Here is a recent example from my own life.

A few days ago I decided it was time that I started exploring the possibility of attracting a loving relationship with a man into my life. Since I have a home business I am often isolated, thus the decision to go to the online dating sites for those over 50 years of age. What a treasure trove of ways in which people hide, practice dishonesty, or at the worst attempt to scam others – mixed in of course with those of us who are openly and honestly representing ourselves – like me.

Yet, it felt that this was the way to go at least for a one month membership to practice my vulnerability skills. The clarity that I have received over the past few days of exploration is that I kept cutting off possibility by assessing that someone just wasn’t a fit because___________ (you fill in the blank).  My delete finger was getting a lot of practice!

Going deeper with this I realized that it was the men that had vast differences in their background, education level, interests etc. that had my delete finger hitting the keyboard. Once I realized this I practiced reaching out to someone who had expressed an interest in me first and who’s world was so completely different from mine. Letting go of any preconceived notions I realized that there was room for possibility to expand and learn something new in areas that I had no competency in at all.

Yikes, no competency!…and there rests the risk of savoring the journey that opens doorways to self and other understanding. Perhaps even leading to that “birthplace of innovation, creativity and change” and possibility….where the other feels just as vulnerable as you do!

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photo(62)Gaye Abbott, RYT assists individuals to dissolve the layers that cover the natural innate blueprint we came in with and reveal, through a combination of evolutionary energy work, Jin Shin Jyutsu, Reiki and breath re-patterning, the larger purpose and co-creative expression that we are here for.

For those interested in receiving private sessions please contact Gaye at: JoyfulGaye@NaturalPassages.com.  Travel to your location in the U.S. or globally is available.  Please inquire.  Skype: gaye.abbott

 

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Fall Down/Get Up Is One Move

A New Direction by Cazcastalla

I’m certain most of you have watched a small child taking their first steps.  They fall down often as they get their land legs underneath them.  Yet, they always get back up again ready for the next adventure in learning to walk upright and exploration of the world around them.

You did this in fact when you were a baby, but some of us have forgotten this as we fall into the deep holes of life and can’t seem to find our way out….or we avoid, with all of our will power, falling at all!

Fall down/get up could be perceived as one move to a baby.  It is a way in which they learn more about life and is fueled by intense curiosity.  Perhaps we have something to relearn here!

Living life in a “straight line” never takes us anywhere we have not already been before.  As Naomi Newman says in the comic dharma performance video below “nothing natural or interesting goes in a straight line and is the quickest way to a wrong place.  If you know where you are going then you have already been there.”

Have you ever purposely surrendered to the possibility of becoming lost?  I call “getting lost” a way of inspiring new possibilities for we travel to a place outside or inside of ourselves that we have never been to before. Then we have a choice.  Engage with curiosity and a sense of exploration….or panic because we are “lost” and dwell in all of the fears that can result as we give them life, capturing us in a way that leads us potentially back to a dead end of sameness.

Almost three years ago now I decided to quit a job and four years of residence in Oregon and move to Texas without having any friends there or source of income.  What made me do it?  Many things actually, but it certainly wasn’t from a place of attempting to live in a straight line, but instead more out of a sense of trusting this leap into the unknown and knowing that I would discover more of who I am and what I have to offer within that journey.

Did I fall at times?  Yes.  Did I get back up making it one move?  Yes, but sometimes with gaps in between as I waited for life and myself to unfold giving time for allowing possibilities to emerge. Did I learn a lot and am I still learning and growing?  Oh yes!

Listening to that inner guidance system, which takes us in many and varied directions, and trusting that it will lead to exactly where we need to go next is a life long lesson.  Be ready to become intensely curious, nurture a sense of exploration, travel in many and varied directions, fall down/get up, and wait for possibilities to unfold.  You were so wise when young…..and it is still there within you!

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photo(62)Gaye Abbott, RYT assists individuals to drop the layers that cover the natural innate blueprint we came in with and reveal, through a combination of evolutionary energy work, Jin Shin Jyutsu, Reiki and breath re-patterning, the larger purpose and co-creative expression that we are here for.

For those interested in receiving private sessions please contact Gaye at: JoyfulGaye@NaturalPassages.com.  Travel to your location in the U.S. or globally is available.  Please inquire.  Skype: gaye.abbott

OTHER BLOGS BY GAYE ABBOTT:
www.BreathingSpaces.net
www.NaturalWealthJournal.com

Breath-Book-coverW2(1)Give Us This Day Our Daily Breath Preview, Reviews and purchase links can be found here:

http://gayeabbott.com/books/

Fierce Feminine

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There is a tremendous power that lives deep inside you.  It’s fierce – showing a heartfelt and powerful intensity that is brave and untamed – full of preciousness, gentleness, kindness and vulnerability.”  Alisa Starkweather

It is when we are truly transparent as a leader and as individuals, to ourselves and those around us, that we provide a container for those that “follow” or “connect” to wake up to themselves and step into their own unique leadership and soul path.  It is as if we have given them permission to be themselves – fully and completely – by being ourselves – fully and completely.

This is a style of fierce feminine leadership and being that allows and anoints women to step fully into their power in a

Yantra. The symbol of Feminine energy-strength, power and clarity.

Yantra. The symbol of Feminine energy-strength, power and clarity.

cooperative and collaborative way leading from grace and trust.  It is a type of being that lets go of and explores the shadow and sense of survival and internal oppression which has been wired in for eons…and steps out and into what we fear most.

 “I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing that I wanted to do.”
― Georgia O’Keeffe

No hiding is present here.  We have hidden for way too long.  It has taken so much energy to keep under cover the magnificent light, power,courage,  creativity, wildness, love, wisdom, intelligence, and compassion that each of us carries.

lea #30 (2)Within you, and in nature, is the potent, instinctual, untamable
and nourishing force of Wild Wisdom.
You need it. I need it.
Our world needs us to bring forth our Wild Wisdom “

Lea Bayles, Body and Soul Coach
http://leabayles.com/wildwisdom.html
(click on this link for a wild, evocative and seductive narrative spoken by Wildly Wise Woman, Lea Bayles!)

A short time ago I had the opportunity to share the story of a wildly wise and fiercely feminine woman.   I facilitated a film afternoon co-sponsored along with Sierra Club and TreeSisters (Clare Dakin, Founder – forming a global network of women with a mission of reforesting the rain forests within 10 years).  The film was Taking Root, a story of Nobel Peace Prize Laureate, Wangari Mathaai and the Green Belt Movement in Kenya, Africa.  There were many things that struck me about this recent history of Kenya and her resources – and even more powerfully the life story of this woman who was bold and committed enough to step into her purpose with clarity and courage even in the midst of an entire government’s ridicule and violent actions taken against her.

And all she wanted to do was plant trees……while empowering Kenyan women and promoting peace and ecological Wangari Maathaisustainability in her country.

There is no surprise that this dynamic woman came back into my life again for as It turns out I had some unfinished business with her. Seven years ago now when I was in Bali, Indonesia at the Global Healing Conference with Desmond Tutu and others from across the world, Wangari was supposed to have been one of the guests to present.  At the last minute she had to cancel.  I was very saddened by that as I had learned of what she had done in Kenya and was very excited about meeting her.

Wangari then came back into my life recently through TreeSisters as they were recommending the Taking Root film to show and discuss. As I am active with them in a volunteer capacity I committed to purchasing the film and facilitating an after film discussion.

About a month prior to this film showing I was visiting with a friend  and we talked a little about Wangari.  She knew about her and loaned me her memoir Unbowed which I finished reading on 9/25/13.  That night I had vivid dreams in which Wangari was encouraging me to “continue my work by telling this story” and “step up into your power and expression as a woman”.  among other things.

The next morning I became curious about what she had died of (ovarian cancer) and when.  When I saw the date I realized why I had been so strongly connected with her that day/night.  She transitioned on 9/25/2011…

317986_290213681073867_886206564_nI remain committed to telling her and Kenya’s story and the relevance to shifting the scarcity/lack and separateness meta-coding that have contributed so greatly to the global challenges we face today – environmental, social justice,  health and spiritual well being.

Her story and that of the women of Kenya is relevant to inspiring and empowering women to express from their fullest potential and to support each other in doing so. It can start with one simple act.

Wangari and so many other women today exemplify the fierce feminine which I am speaking to here. The earth and nature based feminine that is arising with a voice that cannot be ignored.  The  “wild wisdom” feminine that is finally honoring what we have to bring….and bringing it within collaboration and heart based connectivity shifting what Anodea Judith calls the “static masculine” (The Global Heart Awakens: Humanities Rite of Passage from the Love of Power to the Power of Love)  foundation  upon which so much has been built and co-creating a new myth from awakened hearts into systems based on the power of love and the deep interconnection that sustains all.

Root yourself down dear sisters and explore the stories that you are telling yourself.  Are they true?  If not, then change them, make friends with your saboteur and become very curious about what would provide the solid foundation for a fully expressed fiercely feminine YOU!

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How you breathe is the way in which you live your life.  If this statement is true, then how would you like to breathe?  Shallow and restricted or full bodied and naturally?

Use a focus each week for the entire year to promote the vibrant aliveness that is your natural birth right!

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Restoring Your Faith in Humanity

Passion, Power and Purpose by Pamela Turczyn

Slow down
Open your eyes,
and every living thing will tell you its story.  Dewitt Jones

I had a conversation with a good friend the other day about how many good, loving and compassionate acts of kindness and support were going on every single minute of every day.  We are lead to believe that the negative, ruthless, cruel and violent actions far outweigh the good.

I, for one, do not believe that.  It is in our conscious acts of extending a smile, a kind word, an unselfish and fearless offering of our time, passion,  and attention that we heal the connections that yearn to come back into the whole of the fabric of the quilt we call life. Through the potential of our “passion, power and purpose” (thank you Pamela Turczyn!) we sweep away the fears that keep us locked in a prison of our own creation.

The link below has captured via images many of these moments.  It served as a meditation the other morning and changed the fabric of my day.  This week remember that you can be the initiator of one of these actions.

http://www.buzzfeed.com/expresident/pictures-that-will-restore-your-faith-in-humanity

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The “Crazy” Ones

Martha Graham

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”Steve Jobs

On the verge of becoming one of the “crazy ones” is a very ripe place to be.  “Crazy” is being defined here as one who steps way out of any self or culturally imposed boxes and makes the decision to take action on behalf of the heart informed inner voice.  That voice of courage, passion and strength that has never know conformity.

Amelia Earhart

What makes us decide that we can no longer hide out in complacency or fear of being all that we are?  Confidence and determination are certainly a part of it.  Yet I believe that it is deeper than that.  There is a place inside of each of us that has known since the day we were born the purpose we came here to serve.

This may be a quiet purpose out of the public eye, or it could be a completely visible one where there is no hiding at all.  Whatever it is, knowing your purpose with clarity is the starting block on this journey of coming out.

As women this knowing can be delayed a bit.  Sometimes we wait in quiet expectation until

Indira Gandhi

our 50”s, 60’s or even 70’s before we take the time to listen to the heart and intuition driven inner voice that Steve Jobs speaks of above.  It is never too late to become what is your hearts desire!

Take me for example.  I turned 63 this year and I laughingly said to a friend of mine recently “I keep calling myself midlife.  Am I really deluded?  If I am at midlife now then I will be living vibrantly until age 126!!  Now that is possible I suspect, but a more likely explanation is that I find life so irresistible right now that every day is like an art piece to be explored.

Jean Houston

My friend wants to redefine midlife to include the years when we are vibrantly choosing to make a difference and passionately following that inner guidance with heart directed action.  I agree with her.  Midlife is whatever we define it no matter what age we are.

Are you playing it safe?  Or have you decided to be one of the ‘Crazy Ones”?

Those crazy ones – make a difference.  Narrated by Steve Jobs

…and then there is Alice Walker

So in the end you can’t even really regret your misfortunes,” explains the beloved author Alice Walker, “because they led you somewhere.”

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Women Who Make Things Happen

As our world undergoes immense shifts and changes we, as women, are being asked to “step up to the plate” so to speak.  Many of us know what it is that we are passionate about and are taking heart based action in that direction, and many more are simply entertaining which path (or paths) they desire to walk down.

What is it that calls to us from within?   That call we often ignore while being so busy putting out fires, “making a living”, or being Wonder Woman on all the levels that women actively engage in.  There is something called intuition which feels to me to be the soft whisper (and sometimes loud yell) of that essential nature or Divine self that guides, protects, and attempts to inform us of the next steps to take along our unique paths.

I came across an article the other day called Intuition by Danielle Boonstra in which she beautifully and vulnerably addresses the power of intuition by giving an example of when she was at a crossroads in her own life.  Within a few days of reading this I was given the opportunity to listen in to my own essential nature who has been attempting to get my full undivided attention for months now.

Attention has certainly been given in measured doses here and there, but it wasn’t until a dear friend Lea Bayles  did what is called a Discovery session with me that I realized what belief was sitting on top of the me that is so magnificent that I literally had to put sunglasses on to see her.  A blog post arose from this experience entitled “Resistance is Futile and A Doorway to Freedom”.

The point here is that sometimes there are underlying beliefs or patterns that keep us stuck in a “smaller ego self” than who we really are in our fullest expressions.  The discovery of these beliefs and patterns appears to be part of our waking up and the journey that we are here for.

The next question is, are we willing to take the next step by showing up in a way that is not only our natural “birth path”, but are we willing to reach out a hand to the woman next to us, or even across the world, to support her in doing the same thing.

Following is a video of women that have taken a step into there fullest selves and given the “smaller ego self” a vacation to a far away place.  Yes, it is a journey and one with challenges and pitfalls along the way.  However, are we willing to say YES! in any moment to that intuition that says “Go for it!” in the presence of risk and vulnerability?

I, for one, live within those types of moments every single day and it isn’t always easy to get out of your own “smaller self” way.  Are you willing to reach out a hand, step back into the circle of your life in the fullest way possible, and bring at least one other woman with you?

We are innately interconnected.  Let’s use that very web of life to support each other in lighting up the world within our own lives….. and change our personal and global futures.

3-minute film:  Wisdom From Women….Who Make Things Happen

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