Women Who Thrive, Change The World!



In a gentle way you can shake the world.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

Attending to life is a sacred act of love.

A few weeks ago I visited my home town of San Diego, California in the beach area of Ocean Beach/Point Loma where I was born, raised and brought three sons into the world – with the purpose of spending time with family still living there.

It was like living my life backwards with so many memories arising as I walked my old haunts and the hard packed sand at the waters edge.  On one of these walks I reflected on my entry experience at the airport a day before.

Since it had been decades since I flew into San Diego I found the airport not only larger, but more complex in an organized way.  One of the improvements being that car rentals were now in one building in back of the airport.  To reach this building one needed to ride the 11-minute shuttle to get there.

As the door opened for the shuttle bus I was to ride a beautiful African American woman stepped down from the front of the bus onto the sidewalk with a huge smile on her face and greeted us all with an immense inviting and loving energy, calling us precious as she took our luggage and lifted it into the designated spots within the bus.

As another woman sat down next to me she turned and with a smile on her face said to me, “I’ve never been called precious before!”  In just that one gentle way our bus driver had opened up and connected this woman to herself and to me.

It did not stop there!  Once the bus was loaded and the driver had greeted everyone and stowed their luggage we were under way to the car rental building.  As you know, travel can be stressful and sometimes the purpose of individual’s travel can run the gamut from vacation to attending to immense challenges they may be faced with.

The driver greeted us on the PA system, asked how all of us were doing – waiting for our responses, and then proceeded to tell us a little about San Diego and what we were passing by on our short journey.

In the silence that followed this everyone on the bus all of a sudden started hearing  oldies songs, like Moon River, that were whistled over the speaker system…..by our entertaining bus drive.  And she was good!

Following that she invited us to sing children’s songs that she probably sang with her grandchildren, and which most everyone on the bus had sung as a child.  We went the gamut from “The Wheels on the Bus Go Round & Round” to “Row, Row, Row Your Boat” and finally to “Old MacDonald Had a Farm” (with animal suggestions from her captive audience) .

Next on the agenda she challenged anyone who wanted to participate to say tongue twisters with her….and one man from New Zealand standing on the bus with a very large box took it on and succeeded with the most lovely accent!

At this point we were just about to our destination. As I looked around all of the passengers were smiling and connecting with each other.  The entire energy on the bus had changed.  We were connected and enjoying the few moments it took us to get to our destination, the stress of travel forgotten.

As everyone stepped down from the bus our driver handed us our luggage from where it was stowed with a huge smile.  I thanked her for such an entertaining and community connected trip with a shared connected smile.

This woman had engaged us in the short moments we were all together and created something extraordinary from a job and 11 minutes together that could have been quite ordinary simply getting us where we needed to be.

Enough was indeed a feast!

When we as women question whether we are good enough, or simply enough, we are caught in the entanglement of either cultures expectations, or our very own patterns and perfectionism.

What would it be like to simply let go of those expectations, a diagnosis, labels or identities –  and discover who we are as extraordinary, empowered and creative beings in our fullest expressions in any given ordinary moment?

Perhaps we shall find that in honoring our “being enough” it takes us from the ordinary to the extraordinary.

Shake the World Sistah and create a feast!

Copyright Gaye Abbott, 9/8/19



Breathing Spaces

Life At Wolf Creek




Our Life Is Our Art!

Margaret Warfield ~ Artist http://www.margaretwarfield.com

In an interview with beloved photographer Dewitt Jones he said, “taking time to fill your cup every day is an act of creative selfishness.

If we can see our creativity as a way to “fall in love with our world” instead of something that other people are judging, then we are well on our way to being authentic in our expression.

That shift in consciousness around our very individual and unique contribution to the world – whatever it is – can not only enliven us, but can awaken other living beings as we touch their lives.

We are connected to something much larger than we are.

The energy of passion, the deepest of reflection or even the sacred suffering that everyone experiences at times in their lives, holds the reminder to embrace the celebration of wholeness that is held within each day.

Our life is our art!

Listen to WHO by Gypsy Soul below, a distinctively unique group from Ashland, Oregon. We are the sum of the choices we make! This single is the stridently independent Gypsy Soul playing in Seattle’s Triple Door Theater:


But if you are gonna fail, fail for who you are rather than failing while trying to be good at what other artists and writers have been good at. Fail looking for the truth rather than because you tried to avoid it.

 Recognize your beauty, submerge yourself in it, and create out of it.” ~Archibald Campbell, Wild Artist

Gaye Abbott, 7/23/19



Breathing Spaces



Wolf Creek, Grass Valley, California

I believe in all that has never yet been spoken
Rainer Maria Rilke

(English version by Anita Barrows and Joanna Macy)

I believe in all that has never yet been spoken.
I want to free what waits within me
so that what no one has dared to wish for

may for once spring clear
without my contriving.

If this is arrogant, God, forgive me,
but this is what I need to say.
May what I do flow from me like a river,
no forcing and no holding back,
the way it is with children.

Then in these swelling and ebbing currents,
these deepening tides moving out, returning,
I will sing you as no one ever has,

streaming through widening channels
into the open sea.

If you were a body of water what would you be? What qualities would you possess and what color(s) would you reflect?

Water often represents flow even in a frozen form, for eventually it will melt and flow once again.  From where I am in the foothills of the Sierra Nevada mountains I know the rivers and creeks originating from many sources all flow down to the sea where our ancient lineage first came into being.

Perhaps water can be used as a metaphor in your life for freeing what may be stuck .  We all have those places inside that resist the flow, just like rocks and other debris in rivers, streams and creeks.

What path does the river or creek water take?  Discovering its way around and back to the Source – far too compelling to stay still for very long.

Joining with other waters – “widening channels into the open sea.”

Void of planning or controlling the outcome or your expression, but instead awakening to what it is like to simply let go and allow life to unfold possibility…

What does that look and feel like to you?


I am the wild creek emerging from a deep source embraced within the earth.

Flowing down the hill within rock banks and past guardian trees.

Holding me on course.

I am the creek always flowing and clearing the way.

Taking bits and pieces of life depositing them where new growth can spring forth,

Opening pathways with powerful creative force.

Finding a way around obstacles,

Through the ancient knowing of elemental wisdom.

Sometimes roaring with passionate, playful aliveness,

and in other moments still with possibility.

You may drink from me and find that the mystery becomes

clear enough to find your way,

into the heart of your unexpressed being.

Gaye Abbott, 6/30/19


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The greatest possibilities lay in wait as a human heart is freed to open. Speaking language that is birthed from a clear and open space of stillness – of Being. A space that speaks not of what we have done, but of wh

“Beauty calls us beyond ourselves and it encourages us to engage the dream that dwells in the Soul.”  John O’Donohue

At times in our lives we are reminded to harvest the beauty from within.  It can’t be seen….but felt.

This beauty calls for stillness so that she may be heard amidst lives of doing.

It was this call that had me keeping to my loft bed the other morning with a warm quilt, a view of the mini-pollinator garden on my deck, the green backdrop of trees and the sound of Wolf Creek below.

As women we most often feel compelled to “keep things going”, serve until we have nothing left to give, and never ever be idle.  This comes from a long lineage of women before us who’s lives and culture dictated they constantly be engaged.

We had little time for dreams beyond ourselves and the work at hand.

Yet it is within the clear and open space of stillness – of simply being – that the nature of who we are is seen and honored.

As I sat propped up in bed feeling perfectly healthy (one must be “sick” to stay in bed!) there were moments of feeling I should be “doing something”, but this old internal conversation died a peaceful death as I listened to a call much stronger.

To simply rest and be present to the unfolding moment. What richness dwells there!

What if we dedicated time on a regular basis to simply dwell quietly in the unfolding moments without agendas, schedules or demands?

No distractions from electronic devices, but a place where such things as gardens, nature, books, blank canvases and a fountain pen are the “tools” of the day.

One might call this “fasting” – the popular diet fad right now – from everything, anything or person that takes away from making love with the beauty within.

From this space the dreams have room to show themselves with no time constraint or restriction.

They are launched from the beauty of expansive stillness and inspired from the body at rest.

Without self judgement or guilt around actually doing nothing….and accepting everything.

Embracing the moment, dozing in the comfort and gestating the dreams beyond doing.

The dream that dwells in the heart then has room to breathe and make itself know beyond identities that may claim you.

Fertile ground for acknowledgement and acceptance.

Rich soil where roots can dig down and true nature can take over…

telling the story of the possibilities of our dreams.


Gaye Abbott, 5/30/19










Inspiration From Maya Angelou


Uplift just published a short article on this amazing woman of character, passion, transparency and strength.  I am passing some of their words on to you for inspiration – and to challenge YOU to mine the depths of your heart and soul for your own unique answers to these questions.

“Born in St. Louis in 1928, Maya Angelou had an unmistakable rhythm to her soul, a deep strength that held her up and the ability to make words dance. Just like a phoenix, she faced adversity in her life, and rose, again and again, from the ashes.

Having lived her life to the fullest against all odds, Maya Angelou fought to show the world the truth of what she believed– that every life counts and “it takes each of us to make a difference for all of us.” Today, we’re sharing inspiration from the great woman herself, so that we can all rise together.

Inspiration From a Poet that Will Make Your Heart Sing

On life:
My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.

On the power of perspective:
If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.

On what really counts:
I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

On the power of forgiveness:
It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.

On having your own back:
I learned a long time ago the wisest thing I can do is be on my own side, be an advocate for myself.

Maya Angelou quoteI’m a woman. Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me.


On finding the balance:
A wise woman wishes to be no one’s enemy; a wise woman refuses to be anyone’s victim.

On the importance of courage:
One isn’t necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can’t be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.

On personal growth:
We have to confront ourselves. Do we like what we see in the mirror? And, according to our light, according to our understanding, according to our courage, we will have to say yea or nay – and rise!

On the value of each and every action:
I’m convinced of this: Good done anywhere is good done everywhere. For a change, start by speaking to people rather than walking by them like they’re stones that don’t matter. As long as you’re breathing, it’s never too late to do some good.

On aging your own way:
The most important thing I can tell you about aging is this: If you really feel that you want to have an off-the-shoulder blouse and some big beads and thong sandals and a dirndl skirt and a magnolia in your hair, do it. Even if you’re wrinkled.

And finally, on herself:
I would like to be known as an intelligent woman, a courageous woman, a loving woman, a woman who teaches by being.” (Taken from https://upliftconnect.com/)


Gaye Abbott, Natural Passages Consulting, 2/14/19


6 years ago today I posted this and Facebook reminded me of it.  The video below is worth watching on a regular basis when you forget who you are in your absolute glorious, brilliant, astounding, courageous and sacred being.  When you doubt who you are and forget what you are here to be and do.  I needed this reminder today…..and every day.  How about you?

POST FROM 12/14/2011

Today I watched a video of a talk given by the Dali Lama on women.  What he said in essence is that there is a “lack of human affection” in our world today….and that women are the ones to turn that around.   Our naturally compassionate and feeling nature often lead the way in daily interactions.

This is not to say that men don’t have this as well, but we as women are designed for it.  After a few funny stories the Dali Lama made a statement that would potentially upset 1,000’s of years of a lineage that is based on very defined practices and beliefs.  He said he was open to a female Dali Lama!  Needless to say this would be quite a paradigm shift for many, many people…but what if this did happen??

Following on the heels of this I was re-inspired once again by Caroline Casey who gave a TED talk on how extraordinarily far belief can take a person.  I won’t spoil the story for you, so you will have to devote 15 minutes to it in order to find out what happens.  You won’t be sorry that you did!

I am asking myself right now, “am I pretending to be something that I am not?” or “am I absolutely being truly myself”?   Good question to immerse in!  Enjoy the video and Caroline’s story…she is one of those innately compassionate (self and other) women and just by being fully herself inspires us all!

A Dance To Behold

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Moist with sweat and a smile of complete joy radiating on so many faces I joined the ecstatic dance community this morning in Nevada City, California to celebrate the deep feminine rising.

Yesterday saw 1,000’s of women (and men) marching through the streets of their cities and towns across the globe. The posts on Facebook revealed the empowerment within women’s expression on behalf of equality, dignity, justice, compassion and love. 

The connection and energy that was generated swept the planet.

Even I, who was in deep meditation and prayer – holding the space for those that were marching – felt the rising and embodiment of something that has been pulsing under the surface for awhile now. 

We must take a look at the unfolding here.  Would this have happened in just such a way if the catalyst of Donald Trump being elected President of the U.S. was not present? 

Perhaps.  Yet trusting the unfolding versus living in fear is something to consider.    

The journey we are all on right now, at this pivotal turning point in our human and planetary history, is meant to bring the dark into the light to be seen more clearly, to face the challenges head on, and for effective collaborative action to be taken.  

The bubbles that some of us have been hidden in are broken wide open…. and there is nowhere to hide. We are not alone.

We are moving beyond our own limited self interest to embody the deep interconnection that holds all 7 billion humans on this planet.  To take action in sisterhood and brotherhood. To become deeply rooted and collaborative with the natural world – the Earth – that sustains our very being. 

What happens next?  Continuing to wake up and connect.  And within that waking up finding the dance steps that match our soul’s purpose here.  Joining others that would welcome us in as the missing piece that they have been looking for.

Any rigidity that we hold must soften.  For hidden in the rigid, frozen, unsustainable and repetitive breath holding patterns that so often hold us in their grip is a new way of being. 

A way of being that like ecstatic dance releases our fullest expression and potential – our joy in connection, collaboration and solidarity.  A fertile landscape for the change that is being called for.

There can be no sustainable strength for the many tasks before us if there is tension and fear keeping us prisoner.  There is literally no breath – no life – in those spaces. 

Yearning for freedom to dance as if no one was watching…. and as if everyone is watching. 

These next steps we take as women, and with the men that join us, must come from the fullest breath possible. Acknowledging the challenges before us and being willing to fall on our faces if must be.  No longer quiet. 

Expressing with powerful dignity…. and vast compassion and love that holds each being we touch as ourselves.


Gaye Abbott




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