Here we are at the turning of another year once again. If we are not mindful of the importance of living this next year within the precious moments given to us, then we may feel as many do today. A sense that “time” is moving too fast and that our own life is winding down much too quickly for all that we would like to experience and create.
Do we look back at what we did not accomplish? Berate ourselves for not losing that 10 pounds, not asking for a raise, or even not loving enough? Or, do we applaud the moments that had meaning and purpose during the year.
Each New Year’s Eve for me is spent in the ritual of silence with all electronic devices turned off and candles lit. Reflection over this past year and what I am grateful for is a large part of this year end meditation. In fact I have started what Dewitt Jones and Lynette Sheppard call the “Ta Da” list. This is a list, a remembrance if you will, of accomplishments, travels, completed goals, insights, new knowledge and self realizations from the year that is just passing.
From this place comes the cracking open to allow a focus for the New Year to seep into consciousness….one word that represents the place from which inner and outer actions will be taken that will expand awareness and support every action and goal. From this focus will come intentions for the New Year.
Many women, myself included, have taken a stand for empowerment for women. This past year I have found that I have often felt empowered, but the deep place from which this feeling is birthed from is not always present. The statement in the picture above is filled with the promise and inspiration of stepping forward into our dreams and making them happen in 2013 and beyond. Yet, for me there is somewhere else that these actions, and yes even the dreams, must be birthed from.
This was very evident as I wrote a proposal last evening for a salary in the job that I am presently doing. Although having done the research on what others were making in my area for this particular position and writing up a job description, I found myself thinking of what this start up business may be able to afford….instead of aligning with my inherent value and worth in all that I am doing and the impact that my very presence has on this growing business.
Thankfully a dear friend assisted me to “see the light” and stay in line with the original salary number I had come up with. I have to admit that I felt the uncomfortableness of staying present to who I am and the value I have to bring as I am so used to putting the emphasis on “other” than myself.
This place of self value rests within the deep purpose of our life here this time around. It is in every word, action, relationship, job we undertake, environment that we surround our self with, food we put in our mouth, our deepest self care. As women I believe we are still learning about this, for our lives are often taken up with the deep self care of others and their needs. Can we give to ourselves that which we give to others?
It is not selfish to have a deep sense of value about ourselves. It is instead the only place from which to live life. I am not talking here about what we have done to bring value, but more of the intrinsic beauty and sacredness of our very being. The openness, curiosity, honesty, beauty, creativity, integrity and loving presence from which we live our lives. And yes, even the fears, the mistakes, the challenges, the darkness and the pain which weave through each life. Even there….. finding value within and resting there.
Take this new fresh year and begin it with Ta Da…here I am world! …..and live this wild, sacred and passionate life from the value that is your innate being…
P.S. It is not too late to make your “Ta Da” list whenever you read this post!
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